Damnit, this is pretty damn accurate. My wife often complains, “We can’t do that on Wednesday, we’re already doing x on Wednesday.” I’m quick to point out that those two things are hours apart and minutes away from each other.
I guess that’s more an internalization that she’s out of spoons
As part of the chronic illness and neurodivergent community who knows mostly other people in the disabled/chronic/neurodivergent community:
The more people who use spoon theory, even if it “doesn’t apply to them” (which it does. We all have finite energy, non-disabled/divergent people just have way more spoons to start each day), the more people who understand what the fuck we are talking about when we use it.
This is a bit like sign language. If we could get everyone to use it regardless of need, the people who actually need it would be doing just great.
It’s a way to communicate how much energy/capacity you have available to do things. It was originally developed for the chronic illness community and has been adopted more widely since. People with chronic conditions use a lot of energy just to exist, so they have less for what people consider normal stuff like socializing or going to run errands.
Basically you start each day with a set number of spoons which represent quanta of energy that you can put toward tasks for the day. Some things may take you more than one spoon, like appointments, and some things will return spoons, like relaxing for an hour or something.
Some chronic conditions mean you have a different number of spoons available on different days. Like for me when I overexert one day, I’ll have less to give the next.
these links will have some more specific info for you, in case my writing isn’t super clear :)
Thank you. Mines definitely low but i never quiet tried to measure it. I just become more of an ass as the day or bullshit goes on. I do appreciate the quick response though.
I will say i have plenty of energy, i work during my lunch and dont take full breaks but that’s because i dont like slowing down. Its dealing with people thats my problem. So im not sure if its the same thing.
If you think of your energy like water filling the spoons, the point when you start to get grumpy or tired or whatever might be when you’ve run out of spoons and are trying to hold your water in your hands. You can still do things, but it’s harder.
Way to gatekeep a theory specifically for personal energy management my dude, especially since it was akshually for chronic illness, not just being disabled.
Damnit, this is pretty damn accurate. My wife often complains, “We can’t do that on Wednesday, we’re already doing x on Wednesday.” I’m quick to point out that those two things are hours apart and minutes away from each other.
I guess that’s more an internalization that she’s out of spoons
Out of spoons is specifically about being disabled, but sure, nobody has infinite energy
As part of the chronic illness and neurodivergent community who knows mostly other people in the disabled/chronic/neurodivergent community:
The more people who use spoon theory, even if it “doesn’t apply to them” (which it does. We all have finite energy, non-disabled/divergent people just have way more spoons to start each day), the more people who understand what the fuck we are talking about when we use it.
This is a bit like sign language. If we could get everyone to use it regardless of need, the people who actually need it would be doing just great.
Whats spoon theory?
It’s a way to communicate how much energy/capacity you have available to do things. It was originally developed for the chronic illness community and has been adopted more widely since. People with chronic conditions use a lot of energy just to exist, so they have less for what people consider normal stuff like socializing or going to run errands.
Basically you start each day with a set number of spoons which represent quanta of energy that you can put toward tasks for the day. Some things may take you more than one spoon, like appointments, and some things will return spoons, like relaxing for an hour or something.
Some chronic conditions mean you have a different number of spoons available on different days. Like for me when I overexert one day, I’ll have less to give the next.
these links will have some more specific info for you, in case my writing isn’t super clear :)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/full-catastrophe-parenting/202403/what-is-spoon-theory-and-why-is-it-important
Thank you. Mines definitely low but i never quiet tried to measure it. I just become more of an ass as the day or bullshit goes on. I do appreciate the quick response though.
I will say i have plenty of energy, i work during my lunch and dont take full breaks but that’s because i dont like slowing down. Its dealing with people thats my problem. So im not sure if its the same thing.
If you think of your energy like water filling the spoons, the point when you start to get grumpy or tired or whatever might be when you’ve run out of spoons and are trying to hold your water in your hands. You can still do things, but it’s harder.
I hope the whole thing is helpful for you :)
Oh noooo but im like the hulk and im always angry. At least i have gaint hands to hold the water.
Way to gatekeep a theory specifically for personal energy management my dude, especially since it was akshually for chronic illness, not just being disabled.
She has a condition, but thanks for pointing that out