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  • Yeah, most people have to occasionally hurt others, though I’m not sure how they feel about it.

    I believe that some people cannot coexist with others without being hurt (eg. imprisoned), but I don’t relish the thought, especially not in the context of war. If I could choose, I’d institute a gift-based Potlach system (but I have no real enforcement mechanism without violence, so…).

    To be clear, I’m not being judgmental about this, I don’t think anyone should be judged for their thoughts, I just don’t have those thoughts.


  • Hey, this is also not a personal attack. I don’t know if I’m the outlier here or not, but I figured I’d mention it and others can weigh in.

    I don’t get the urge to hurt people, not that I don’t hurt people, but it’s unintentional or uncomfortable for me. I get the urge to prove people wrong, but I only feel dread when I need to hurt people (not harm them, but I’m a teacher, so I have to have tough conversations with students sometimes).

    If you get the urge to hurt people, vote this comment down, if you don’t, vote it up.






  • I don’t know enough mma people to say, honestly. I know jiu jitsu bros, and they tend to be extreme in either direction, but more commonly very cool with women who also do jiu jitsu.

    My sister did a fuck ton of martial arts and some combat sports (no MMA), and is pretty thick skinned about sexism. According to her, the same is true for most martial artists and wrestlers, but boxers are more of an even mix.

    Edit: maybe it scales with head trauma?


  • My sister had a classmate whose mother and grandmother each got pregnant at 15. Starting when this girl was 15 and for the rest of high school, they basically never let her be alone with anyone.

    She did go a little wild in college, but she was well aware she didn’t want to get pregnant until she was settled.

    Edit: this was not intended as a counterpoint to the likeliness of this, both because teen pregnancy has also gone down a bunch since this family got started, and because “an internet commenter’s sister’s classmate” is legitimately more ridiculous than the example relationship I give to discredit urban legends.