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Cake day: June 8th, 2023

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  • Bumble used to be different back in the day. I tried it when it was going down the tubes.

    I think part of the problem is that the matching is fairly superficial, so while you know a little about the person, most of the details amount to their face, 1-3 hobbies, and their ass.

    The women I matched with that I went out with were awkward and felt forced. In the end, I ended up falling in love with a close guy friend that I had known for years.

    If bumble wants success, they should allow for much deeper Q&A, longer response times, a tweaked algorithm that matches people based off hobbies and passions, and an AD section that allows people to privately put in stuff that they like after dark. Info that isn’t shared with their matches, but helps make people match better with people like them.

    As for straight dating though, idk. I feel like people should probably be avoiding apps and meeting organically through stuff like biking groups, climbing groups, skiing events, big dance venues, etc. it fosters much more organic connections.

    I don’t participate in bar culture that much, but the difference between the gay bars I’ve gone to and the straighter college-y bars feels immense. The former is much more social with a pinch of kink, the latter is where people are getting absolutely blitzed without much dialogue over loud music. It’s an extremely small sample size, but I can’t help but wonder if it’s part of a larger trend when it comes to meeting people and how portions of society meet and date. Perhaps there are bars where single straight men and women meet over 1-2 drinks and talk, but I haven’t seen any so far.

    Overall, I think the Internet and cars (decreasing population density and increasing the space between third places) has had a dramatically negative impact on love and friendships in places like the US.



  • People think that voting either doesn’t matter, or that it’s like choosing to be a fan of a certain football team. They won’t realize their mistake when the rug gets pulled out from underneath them…but they might when they hit the back of their head on the polished concrete floor.

    Unfortunately, we (the world) are paying for their medical bill. Climate change policy will regress. Trade and economic policy, too. Peace will be undermined. And regional wars will flare up and get worse as people fight for water and other resources.
















  • Unfortunately, things like this will continue to happen. Events like Pride here have been proactive whenever there’s street events, and they have deployed crash barriers that people can walk between quite easily, but will immediately stop vehicles. They kinda look like portable construction equipment, but they have little wheels on them so they can be wheeled around, and have teeth that bite into the concrete when a car crashes into it. It will stop or potentially flip the car, depending on the speed.

    Seeing deterrent measurements is disheartening, but it also makes it much more reassuring to see police and crash barriers protecting large (300k+) events like parades and street festivals. I hope Germany and other countries start to deploy barriers like this for big events.